The Key to Relationships

Run Time Reboot Loop of a Relationship

All full of renewed enthusiasm for strengthening a relationship, I sit down with my partner and I say: “I would like to talk about our relationship.” As somebody that has read Teen Magazine we may think these are the most dreaded words to hear in a relationship. As a mature adult looking to improve their […]


Resisting to Resist

It’s confusing. It’s really confusing. Listening to somebody who by default has resisted what you have shared because they don’t believe you know what you are talking about or that they’re automatic response is to be offended by what you’ve said. Our current Covid pandemic really has me on high alert regarding this. News today […]

Achilles in Athens, Greece by Ned Tobin

Atheism & Mystics: The Fire Inside

It brings to life a yearning inside of me that is like the flame of history. One full of mysteries that are nearly impossible for me to comprehend, not because they are mysteries, not because they are of a place so foreign to me, but because it is a time of knowledge that is simply […]


Get To Know Differences

I think I know many things. We all do, to some extent, or it would be very hard to get up in the morning and move forward, considering the overwhelm of the day ahead. I wish I could always keep the student mind, believing I know nothing. But, alas, human I am. Therefore, I expect […]


I Demand Respect

Recent events have led me to really contemplate the level at which our culture has become demanding: demanding on resources, demanding on consumption, and demanding respect. With this final topic I wish to contemplate further. “The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion A Brief […]


Arousal – It’s In You To Give

A recently article by Kim Anami sparked a deep rooted desire in my.. pants. My latest article on I Love To You spoke about my thoughts on how to love, a love you give to another rather than a love that only exists between two people in mutual reciprocity. To further this, I think it’s […]


I Love To You

I’ve recently finished reading a book by Lucy Irigaray called To Be Two and it’s led me to deeply shift how I think about love. Well, truthfully, it’s not that I haven’t thought or embraced this kind of loving previously, but it’s been quite a eye opening exposé to exactly what it means to to […]

Daisy by Ned Tobin

She Loves Me, She Loves Me Not

Walking home today I came upon the beloved daisy and remembered occasions in the past where a friend has run the gauntlet: (s)he loves me, (s)he loves me not. How do I love? Do I leave it up to question like this, wondering if that soul loves me or are they not in love with […]


Spirit, The Open Dialog of Sexuality

“I cannot be the whole for him. I can neither exist nor be in his place. But I can perhaps give him a livable place, prepare a space around him, contain myself: approach myself while drawing away from myself. Return in me without scattering or dispersing myself. […] Only your existence helps me to be […]


Inner Motivation

I’m not sure if it’s an automatic response, something that has been told us so many times that now we believe it, but do deadlines really motivate us? I think that deadline motivation is primarily fear based motivation. A looming judgement day rapidly advancing on our psyche with strict punishments. Can this be healthy? This […]